When the going gets tough, the annoyance gets going!

The last couple of months have been quite a lot for us to take... being confined in a hospital room for two months. ..  having a preterm delivery.. seeing our babies struggle for life.. bringing up preterms...  on top of the struggle itself, what we have always found challenging is to cope up with questions from people around... a couple of typical questions and must-have-been answers is what this post is about... NOTE : it's entirely up to your discretion to term this post as real or fictitious and I am not responsible for what you decide 😉

Confinement...

"Stay at the hospital till u deliver? The hospital is completely money minded ". "Sure is. They make one billion a day and our 2000 bucks surely is a lot "
"Have they prescribed any diet? " " yes. I can eat EVERYTHING"
"You have to walk a lot and exercise instead of lying down like this , only then normal delivery is possible. ""Don't you understand, that is precisely what they are trying to prevent? "

Testing times...

"Tell the doctors you have to breastfeed the babies right away because it is good for their health" "yes I will. Can you send me your certificate of neonatology meanwhile?"
"Give toys to the babies... it helps them feel positive and happy" "they have a couple of toys already.. IV lines, OG tubes and what not"
"Are they moving their hands and legs and actively playing? " "yes. Only yesterday did he pull off the breathing tube"
"OMG, your babies have already been in the NICU for two months? Time flies..!" "Yes. At the rate of sixty mins per hour and twenty four hours per day. We've been counting every second and its right"

Growing up...
"Pasanga color konjam kammi dhaan"."so sad. were u expecting the entire vibgyor?"
"Ten months old? Does your kid sit down by himself?". "Sure does. He also goes for work. His name is Prem"
"Has your baby done anything special in the last months that you can share with us?" "They fed through their nose for couple of weeks. Can you do it?"
..on avyukth's patch on the head
"Was that where both of them were conjoined and they had to be operated upon?" Even before i understood the question I found myself saying yes.

....and the most difficult and painful one
"Atleast one baby is fine right, whyre you worrying? "
I am not able to mock this question for it hurts still. Just the same.

How painful it was to explain to people while we were already going through hell. To explain why I was lying upside down while all I wanted was to flaunt my baby bump. To explain why our boys had to be in intensive care while I'd have given anything to hold them that very minute. To explain why we were silent to each other only because we didnt want to spell out our deepest fear. To explain the difference of a baby growing inside the womb and outside - although the god sent people recreated the wonder. To explain how avyukth leaned on an inch of his skin for a month and only that kept him breathing. To explain how we didnt want any of this.

I humbly ask you for a favour - if you cannot help them, dont call them. PERIOD.

I dont know how to end this post. As always, we are thankful to HIM for blessing us with the strength to endure and take us through a rough couple of months. For having given us the strength to look back and ridicule yet respect every moment of what we went through.

Thank YOU.

Cheers,
Hopie
NB: I hope you're working on what I ask you always though.